We hear the term “cult leader” and often think of someone on a platform or behind a pulpit singing and playing an instrument during a church service. But leading in worship was the responsibility given to Adam in Genesis when he was told to obey certain commandments and to lead his wife and future family to do so as well.
“Weight of fatherhood”
I want to take this term and apply it at home. Not just for your own good, but for mine. I am Alicia’s husband and the father of Jace, Ellie Bre and Abigail. And we would like to add to that number.
The older my children get, the more aware I am of the weight of fatherhood. It is not a simple task to “earn enough money to pay the bills and feed the family”. There is a whole spiritual component that is necessary for me as a father. I am called to lead my precious gifts by living a life of worship before them.
When you first teach a young child to walk safely in the woods, you don’t just show them a way and let them go. What are we doing? We walk in front of them, stopping to point out dangers and showing them where to carefully place their feet behind us. All the while, we also walk past them making sure to spot anything dangerous before we even approach.
Life is exactly the same. And it’s not just for the finances, the relationships, and the hard work that we do this with them. It must also be for the spiritual world in all of these areas of life. We don’t have to spend wisely to have a great retirement. We are to spend wisely for the glory of the Lord and the support of His kingdom with a joyful heart.
We don’t just need to treat others well and find a good mate. We are to love others as Christ loved us and seek to honor the Lord in a godly marriage. And we don’t just work hard because it’s the best way to work. We do everything from big to small for the glory of the Lord as for the Lord.
In the life lessons that the world seeks to teach our children through the media, schools, and culture in general, there are deeper Christ-centered realities that need to be taught. I need help teaching these things.
Men are notorious for refusing to seek help. We have this! But we really don’t. We need God and pious men with strong faith in our lives to build us up and hold us accountable for the obedience and training of our children.
We should pray for our children and ask God for wisdom, thanking him for giving it to those who ask for it in faith. We need to involve other faithful families in our lives to show our children that a Christ-centered community is necessary for a faithful life.
And we must be prepared to be vulnerable, to share the mistakes of our past, or to ask forgiveness of our own children when we sin against them or their mothers to emphasize the place of grace and redemption we have in Christ.
God is present
God will not forsake us. He has promised to be present by his Spirit and to see us as abiding in the righteousness of Christ. And it is from this place that we stand firm as fathers, paving the way for a life of worship for our families. And this kind of fatherly leadership will change nations for generations.
EDITOR’S NOTE – James Hammack is the Head of Digital Services at TAB Media. He and his wife, Alicia, have a son, Jace, and daughters, Ellie Bre and Abigail. They live in Prattville and are members of the Sovereign Grace Church, Millbrook.